Tips on being a lesbian in amman
It’s been done. Relax. You are not alone. Sorry to break it to you that you are not that special, and for that you will thank me soon enough!
- There are lesbians in Amman, we exist, from all ages. We play, we work, we talk, we love, we dream, we drink, we sleep, we eat, we have wild parties and some not-so wild-ones (who cares about those) we do relationships, short and long, some do one-night-stands, some live together, some live alone and of course we do have sex and lots of it.
- We are diverse, some are femmes, some are butches, some are tomboys, we look like everyone else. No, there is no stamp.
- Yes, there is drama. And lots of it. Can’t help it being a closed circle and being women. Accept the drama, live with it, and define your own filtering strategy as early as you can.
PS. if you cheat on your gf, or if you sleep with your friends’ gf, then you deserve all the drama you will get.
- We are everywhere. If you fix your gaydar up you will find us and we will find you. Just don’t hang out with too many uptight straight people, we lose interest and sometimes we lose it fast.
- Beware of online dating, try to screen well before you spell your guts out or your phone number. Men like us, they fantasize about us. Jordanian men do that 10x times. So be careful.
- There are psychos out there, not nice but they exist. Best way to figure them out is to take note of a) LIES b) money -life or death loans c) ugly gossip d) overrated jealousy.
-Best places to meet lesbians? You know them, i don’t have to mention them here. The first one will be tough to meet, but soon enough you will get the hang of it.
-Expect months and years of no-activity, as long as we choose to be closeted this will be the case, but cheer up, you will find someone everyone does at the end of the day 
-Don’t tag too many of the gay women that you know with a “friend” tag. choose one or two and let the rest be just that, gay-women-you-know. Why? You will run out of options soon, so widen your dating pool as much as you can as early as you can!
Love your self, love one another
be gay!
These tips are likely to work for queer women in India as well.
I actually do feel alone being a lesbian in Amman, it’s not that I don’t have friends, I do, but they’re either straight, or male gays, and it’s frustrating, because I do want to meet/hang out with lesbians all the time, and as for my gaydar, sometimes the wrong people set it off and you can’t just walk up to someone and ask them if they’re gay.
I feel like it’s easier for gay men in Amman, they even have sites that they get to know each other at, I can’t seem to find a single one for lesbians.
Any help? Much appreciated.
Thank you for posting this comment. There is a private Facebook group set up you can check out and ask to join. And hopefully things will get better for you
here is the link http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=5457581526 Good luck!
just send request
yeah i ve exactly the same problem…
Thank you :] I’m about to check it out but I feel like you’ve already helped just by posting it,
to tell you the truth no i dont know where these places are i know u didnt wna mentiont them here but many of us lesbians dont know ! i live in amman, abdoun where its all about the money and the glamour fa tell me how am i suppose to spot a lesbian i can’t even open the subject with one of my friends can u please [..edited..]
I am having such a hard time meeting any queer women. I do agree with Sammie, I’ve met so many queer males, but not one LGBT woman. Im sure jordanian lesbians do exist, but i wonder why there’s no support base. I do completely understand that trusting new members is dangerous but y’all gotta give and take just a tiny bit…I requested to join the facebook group, but the description says “only members can invite others”, chances are my request would be denied.
but…i wanted to thank you for starting this blog.
peace
heya, i am a female gay from Singapore and am thinking of visiting Jordan for a holiday. places that i intend to visit are like Amman, Petra and Dead Sea. After which i may drop by Israel for a day or two. May i know if it is safe for a butch travelling alone in Jordan? i am very keen to make new friends from Jordan and hopefully we can meet up when im there..
Do you happen to know any lesbian friendly hotel or clubs that i patron to?
Hope your request was accepted and that you are well into meeting other lesbians in Amman! Would love to hear back from you and your experience so far
haha girl your Genius! i loved every word u wrote and I do
agree that we are here and everywhere, people need to work on their
GayDar more often ^^ So, if anyone up for a chat add me over here:
Gothica.whispers@hotmail.com and No, i am not a creepy guy either
haha Hollaaaaaaa xoxox
I’m a gay woman who lived all her life in Amman…only bumped into straight confused girls…which consequently screwed up my heart…so now living the life of a nun! And I would love to know where the hell are these places! where i can meet normal lesbians…I’m sick of living like this..if anyone feels like talking
rule-da-world@hotmail.com
I am a lesbian from Amman-Jordan.. wish to know a lot of lesbians over there.
This is my mail:
rororererom@windowslive.com
Hey there.. I am new in Amman but already have some friends that I enjoy hanging out with.. Most of my friends dont know that I am a lesbian, but they would not be able to tell.. I am very feminine, 25yrs old and a writer..
I would like to connect to the LGBT scene in Amman as I will stay for a few years.. I would like to start a lesbian meetup, on wednesdays at 7pm in books@. Would you be down to join? >Please feel free to send me an email: stella.j.johnson@googlemail.com Thank you so much
Hello,
I just tried to join the Jordanian facebook group listed above, but I’m not sure if I will be accepted because I didn’t get to attach a note as to why I’d like to join. I am an American and was just accepted for a job in Amman. I am trying to decide whether or not I want to take it because of how it will affect my personal life living in a place where I cannot meet any other gay women (even for friends).
Hey Danielle,
dont worry about it..You will not be lonely..there are a) many Americans here and b) quite some interesting lesbians/bisexual women..
Plus, I would take this job offer as you will broaden your horizon and experience a different culture..
You can send me an email and meet up once you are here..
PS: There is a rainbow st. here which is usually a gayfriendly street with the best pubs, cafes and restaurants..it is easy to meet other women once you hang out at books@cafe or similar..
It’s all good..dont worry and experience it..If you dont like it, you can always quit and go back home..
Actually, I was in the same position and have been here in Jordan for quite some time now
PS: Email: stella.j.johnson@googlemail.com
hello..
this is the first time i know about this site, and its great job girls.. and thank you for referring people to the gay women of jordan group..and old friend and I set up this page back in 2007, hoping we’d create a venue gor gay girls to meet, share ideas, dreams and feelings.. so again im just happy that this page is contributing in a way..
I would love to get more support to establish something better, more tangile, and more concrete.. if anyone’s interested to talk about this some more, pleas add me on addicted2weed@hotmail.com
Zein Masri
and i am sorry for leaving the gay women of jordan group unattended i think Sammie was made an admin and im sure she is doing a great job.. but more support is needed..
and i would like to thank who ever started this blog but saying that we are r out there.. we live, we love, we hate, we feel pain, happiness, fear, just like everyone else.. we are normal people, with a small detail that by no means define us.. i refuse to be defined by my sexual orientation, rather by my acheivemets as a human being..but we must also realize that we have a duty towards our community, of changing that sterotype homophobes have about us.. we are not deviants who solely think about sex.. we are beautiful, prodctive smart human beings.. so my wish for everyone is to help change that bad image we have..
we are not about drama, gossip, and back sabbing.. we are not about “the do’s and dont’s of gay dating”.. we shouldnt be.. we should be about first being there for one another, second, trying to bring acceptance in our society of homosexuality, if for nothing else then at least for living in less fear than we do now..
hello girls, I am bi and living in Amman. And hell I only see gay guys. Of course there are amazing to hang out with, but where are the girls? x
hey curly socks, the girls are right here….
add me on addicted2weed@hotmail.com..
the easiest way is to create a fake account on fb, and then start adding girls.. this will have a snowball effect.. each girl will lead u to another and so, the network grows…
Hey there. So I’m new to Amman, just moved here from California. I have been trying to meet other LGBT folk but have hit a wall. I saw the link above to the facebook group and sent a request—-I’m not just some random creep
Hope to chill with you all soon!
welcome to Jordan! im sure u will have lots of fun though im not so sure u might be so comfortable with the gay girls scene over here but hey it’s worth the try i guess “if u are into DRAMA” lol
hey there Almas
that group is kinda dead.. Sammie and I (the admins) havent been giving it much attention im afraid.. but there are many other similar groups on Facebook…
you can also add me on facebook on “Lara Rayyan” (ps. i have the pic of two married monkies as my profile picture) and through my friends’ list talk to girls…
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1464831922
Thanks. It’s been a rough transition after having lived for years in predominantly queer communities/cities and it’s getting a little depressing. . . but hopefully I’ll be able to connect with the community here.
Hey everyone, I just saw the comments on here and I’m starting to feel bad for the group being so dead, since it has actually helped me meet a lot of amazing people, I don’t really go on anything much anymore, but I’ll be trying to revive the group and if anyone who stumbles on this page just needs to talk, you can e-mail me at monkeywantsrevenge@hotmail.com
hi,, I live in Amman,, iam 35 years old,, female, and i would to meet lesbian girls
you can ctc me :sona.jeje@yahoo.com
Hi ladies I’m from the states I am married and live and Jordan, I love women but it’s a lot harder meeting lesbians. back home I would just go to a gay bar and that was it but here it’s like mission impossible and it sucks the women here are hot! Anyways yes I am married but I am attracted to women a lot more then men, there just easy to get with
. If anyone would like to chat maybe meet up contact me I’m 24 years old and sexy I’ll exchange pics.
cutie201077@yahoo.com